As soon as all the pieces are put into place, we will now be offering six courses for women and much, much more, though I would rather not give the surprise away until I give birth to it. The birthing process is slow, though it has given me new insights.

To let you all know, I am looking for a business partner who can handle that side of things. Too many hats for me in terms of vision/content development, business building, website technologies, marketing, etc; so I am looking to create a team as well. I am also researching how to secure funding and make this happen for you as well as for me. I am very excited about what DaVincisMuse.com will be offering and if all goes well, the vision is really a movement.

I have had help assisting in building some of the foundations (those that know who you are, thank you very much), though at this point I am a bit on my own. Please excuse the delay and thank you for your patience. If anyone has thoughts about how to make this happen, please do contact me at Lane@DaVincisMuse.com.

Sincerely,

Stephany Lane Yarbrough

Merriam-Webster’s definition of integrity:

1 : firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptability

2 : an unimpaired condition : soundness

3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided : Completeness

synonyms: honesty

Alignment of the self through our personal integrity of love and joy, even in the midst of transitions, enables us to be accountable for our own lives. In relationships, for there to be any relationship at all, integrity is paramount. And this is true for all relationships.

In relationships between a man and a woman, one’s integrity involves clear communication. Spoken expectations and understandings are important after the courtship, dating or complimentary phase of emotional connection (or if you want to be down and dirty depending on your emotion make-up and the kind of relationship you desire, sometimes directly communicating what you both want can be more efficient). Clear communication of expectations and understandings enable the relationship to be built on a solid structure and a solid structure creates a win-win relationship.

Because people grow in self-awareness about their identity and with that may come change and separations in relationships, this does not mean that the giving, particularly in terms of the unquantifiable aspects of what the woman has given or gives, should be dismissed, not honored nor respected, especially when children are involved. In the case where respect and compassion for the life created has diminished, the question of integrity appears. Ask yourself, when a break-up has occurred or is occurring, has there been or is there honor in character and integrity through action in valuing what was or what is? Often times, when expectations are not communicated clearly during the structuring phase of a relationship and particularly when a win-win relationship for some reason has not been or can not be established, integrity plays a key role. At this point seemingly “victims” and “villains” emerge.

The Muse looks into the darkness to find the spiritual light by making meaning and then transforms it into her strength and the dignity of her life. How is this begun? Firstly, the darkness must be found. Secondly, the darkness is replaced by light through the trans-formative powers of the mind, a conscious decision is made to own and live in your light and then, by aligning your emotions, you empower your life.

In the November Feature I had mentioned I would be introducing to you the emotional component of accepting who you are and recognizing your light. As a gift to you this holiday season, I would like to introduce you to Wendy Yellen who is an Eidetic Life Coach, specializing in Transformation Acceleration. She very much likes to work with, what she calls “Ripple Makers and Tsunami Makers, those who are really ready for their PASSION to make an Even Bigger Difference!”.

Eidetic Imagery is… “Imagery in extreme detail; a sort of projection of an image on a mental screen….Of, relating to, or marked by extraordinarily detailed and vivid recall of visual images”… your images, the images you have created and can recreate with a new found sense of self. Wendy Yellen states, “In over 25 years of searching, studying, and practicing as an international life coach and therapist, I has never found a life-changing tool that even comes close to the work done through emotional imagery”.

For me, my journey with the work of Wendy Yellen has made a difference in opening myself to emotional possibilities

Fears, what are they? We all have them. Where do they come from? Why do we have them? What is their purpose? How come some of us have them more than others? These are all questions that bring to our attention our own vulnerabilities. When we look at our fears and face the darkness and immerse ourselves in the darkness, we humble ourselves and honor the unknown. In doing so, no matter how emotionally frightening resting in the unknown is, we show to ourselves that it is our “beingness” , without the need for action, that supports us in our darkest hour. So crucial to our “beingness”, this center that we can call home, the beginning of our truth, is our self-esteem.

Self-esteem, the fundamental source of our being, gauges our sense of self-worth (not to be confused with confidence which has more to do with how we socially express our ability in meeting challenges). Our self-esteem is paramount in helping us address our fears. Not only does a fortified sense of self provide the strength to face life’s challenges by tapping into the source to do so, it also gives us the ability to maintain our integrity when faced with choice. Knowing who you are and having a sense of worth is fundamental to honoring your truth as the gift of your life. Self-esteem and self-love can be learned. No matter where you begin and however much darkness you are in, you can find the light. That light is your own sense of worth, self-esteem and structure of your life. It is your purpose on Earth and when infused with emotion brightens the world.

I was sitting in the doctor’s office the other day waiting for a mammogram and while I was there I began to reflect on the nature of our physical lives as women. A couple of thoughts crossed my mind, the first having to do with the innocence of our bodies. I remember my ex-husband saying to me after our recent divorce that had I not married him, I would have been a nun. I was not sure what that meant as we had an abundantly sexual relationship and I did not give it much thought until today. Now, I sense that we had a different understanding of physical life and its innocence. I then looked across from me and two women sat next to each, one with a very young infant. When we began talking, I found out the women were mother and daughter and the infant was only seven weeks old. I imagined the miracle of life that the infant represented. She was quite amazing with a variety of expressions. The mother told me she also had a two and a half year old at home and she was just beginning to say “No”. Wow, I thought, the miracle of life is phenomenal and not only is the miracle of life phenomenal, so too is the learning process of how we become to know who we are.

The woman’s body is the conduit to spirit and gives birth to spirit. The respect shown for a woman’s body and the spirit that it hers is to respect life. The choices she makes about her life is the foundation of all of life. The need for mammograms, choosing whether or not to have a child, how to express our sexuality, the care of our physical appearance, the kinds of relationships we create are all representative of our physical existence as women. As women, we are the nurturers of life and so the decision becomes for ourselves: “Who, what, where, when and why do we want to nurture”? Nurturing emotionally, spiritually, as well as physically is the energy that we give to foster the growth and support of others. This energy that we give can be appreciated or devalued, either by ourselves or others. A list of questions for you highlights…